Memories...

Recently I was speaking to an old friend of mine about fitness. He openly shared his thoughts on his life, marriage and the status of their ( his wife's and his) health. He was, to say the least, nostalgic.

He went on to share that the couples' desire for fitness, health, and physical image had faded over the years. Complacency had taken over- I told him. He agreed and continued to say that his partner's lack of interest in the matter affected his desire and prioritizing of fitness. Additionally, jealousy had started to creep into the relationship.

This happens to the best and the worst of us. My friend is not the only one with this problem. But it's how you chose to confront this issue that determines the outcome. You can either accept it and let your life partner deviate you from your desire or you can continue with your path and take on the additional challenge of influencing them to do the same. Don't shy away from the challenge. Step up to the plate and do what's right for you and them. Your body and marriage/relationship will thank you.

Remember that your partner is your first line of support and influence. If you feel that you care about your health and "physique" but they don't, change that! But know that it's not just about physiques- it's about life and long term health!

Have an open heart talk with them and let them know how you feel. Explain to them how this behavior, their actions, and lack of interest affects you and your relationship. If they truly care about the special bond you have with them they will respect that and not be detrimental to your goal/success-instead they will hopefully join you and serve as your main support.

As we get older and get complacent in our lives; we tend to forget about the small things that truly matter. Communication, trust, honesty, support and dedication are necessary qualities for a successful relationship and weight loss journey. Work on these as they will serve you well in the long run.

I've seen it time and time again. As partners get more comfortable in a marriage/relationship they tend to forget about their physiques. First it's 5 lbs, then 10, then 20, and sometimes even 100+. That's when they look back and wonder " what happened? I was athletic, attractive, and active!" They feel lost, not knowing where to start. But when they do find a way to begin on their redemption road they give up because of the unanticipated difficulty.

Now I'm not saying that physiques are everything and that you should have a superstar body. No, not at all. What I'm saying is that there should be no complacency in a relationship or health. You should always work at them as they are both directly related and one can affect the other. Look at the glass full and use your partner as support, motivation, and encouragement and stop using them as an excuse!! Instead of spending your time together dining and watching movies, mow the lawn, exercise, and jog together!

Now if you find yourself in this dilemma; nostalgic about your athletic days and wondering where that went, don't just sit and wonder. Do something about it! Get up and move, take your family out for fun days at the beach, play, find support, find a fitness trainer, educate yourself, eat right, and be persistent! All great things take time, effort, and will!

Don't dwell on the past, focus on the present for a better future!



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